The word SAFETY means security, protection and well-being. That sounds simple enough. However, everything has a safety factor associated with it. Obviously, some human activities are more dangerous than others. The really dangerous ones require the most safety equipment and cost more to participate in. Most of us come to bodily harm doing routine daily activities or by doing the things we know better than to do. Some times we get away with it for a really long time. Then one day something happens. Do accidents happen or did we believe it would never happen to us?

When I first learned to ride a bicycle there was no safety helmet required. Times change and now I get to wear that helmet. I wasn't necessarily graceful about wearing this helmet. This helmet and my resistance to it was the beginning of another process for me.
I am the Madame of Bella's Gentlemen's Club (BGC) a legal brothel in Wells , NV. The day arrived when the State of Nevada Department of Health told the legal brothels that condoms were mandatory for the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). This meant SAFETY GEAR for sexual activities. Safety and Change seem to always be in the same sentence. For us it is a law. For the rest of the world, it becomes a choice. My grandmother taught me about condoms when I was a young woman in order to prevent pregnancy. Another one of those awkward moments; I did learn about condoms and, yes, I was totally embarrassed because she did it right in front of the pharmacist. It's a cute story about a serious subject.

Condoms have undergone many changes over a short period of time. They are thinner, stronger, flavored, textured, lubricated, non-lubricated and scented just to list a few of the changes. This means safety and comfort to all of us. Condoms are important because they are so effective in preventing the spread of STDs. See your doctor or local clinic for periodic medical testing for the presence of STDs. Never take another person's word that they are STD free .This would be like playing Russian roulette with your life; HIV kills and some of the other STDs are for life!! Imagine the embarrassment of admitting you have an STD or will you keep it a secret and hope that you never give it to some one else? STDs are serious, so protect yourself with condoms and by testing.
Safe sex is always available in a legal brothel within the state of Nevada. I have actually talked with people that thought that because prostitution was legal in Nevada that they could be approached and pay for sexual favors any where in the state. Wrong! You must be in a legally licensed brothel. The ladies are checked weekly for STDs and, remember, condoms are mandatory. The State of Nevada has done their homework and has come up with a system that works. The ladies are safe because of condoms, weekly testing, and having a place to work where they choose to do it legally. The clients are safe for all the same reasons.
Obviously, Nevada has taken the approach that safe sex is possible even after the HIV scare. There are 49 states in the United States where legal sexual favors and money are never found in the same sentence. I am aware that the escort services and massage parlors are tolerated in many areas of our country. This is where sexual favors are exchanged for money with untested ladies in an illegal, unsafe environment. I have talked with ladies who have worked in escort services and massage parlors. The ladies said that "escort" is the scariest because you never know who you are meeting and it is sexual favors for money in a hotel/motel situation. I have been told by men and women that condoms are used in both of the above industries.
The antonym of safety is DANGER! Sex is a normal human activity and, like any other contact sport, all players must wear protection in order to stay healthy and ALIVE!

Love, Bella
Contact me at bella@bellas.us

We are born inquisitive. From birth we experiment minute by minute. Remember the children’s books titled Curious George? Curious George was a very inquisitive monkey. His job in these stories was to help children learn about their own curiosity in a humorous way. You know-- learn about the red-hot burner on the stove without actually touching it. What a concept! I personally have touched more red-hot burners in my life than I could ever list. We all have! Those burners are a form of experimentation and they are never
always hot.

As we grow up, and because of our encounters with the stove, we may approach new adventures with reservation. I believe a better approach is to tap into our now-educated childlike inquisitiveness. I call it standing on skinny branches. When something is new, the feeling of FEAR can apply. If we do our best to think it thru and quickly apply here, we have the opportunity to feel something good.

Now, we are a little older and blessed with something called hormones. Hormones turn up the heat on our stove. No need to fear the heat yet. Let’s talk about it. This heat is a new experiment all about our sexuality. We want to feel attractive and even sexy with someone we find attractive and sexy. Sexual attraction is human magnetism. This magnetism is an important part of our life and we need to understand how to safely experiment.

Sexual attraction can be without emotional attachment. At Bella’s Gentlemen’s Club in Wells NV., one of Nevada’s legal brothels, a person can engage in safe sexual inquisitiveness without those emotional ties. Sex is a physical encounter with another person, so a legal brothel is the place to safely satisfy the curious.

What if you live nowhere near Nevada? What if your Prince or Princess Charming is still missing from you life? Do you put your sexual life on hold? Maybe, that is your choice. I believe many people chose to experiment with their sexuality. They have been with someone else sexually before their P. Charming arrives. It is called casual dating and as long as everyone uses condoms, then it’s "harm to none."

So here is a 21st century dating strategy: Be careful of that LOVE word; you probably should be using the word LIKE. When the word love and broken heart are in the same sentence, that is red-hot burner stove stuff!  We all have a heart and there will come a day when you fall in love with some one who only likes you. Your heart will hurt. If everyone has been honest about the type of relationship, then the scar from the burn should be small.

Serious relationships should happen after you are through experimenting.  You would never want your heart broken by selfish inquisitiveness.

Always use protection, STD’s are serious.

Love, Bella
http://bellas.us 

Monday, October 09, 2006
Bella speaks: A day of observation or judgment?

I am challenged daily with either being an observer of life or one who judges everyone and everything. Even though I consciously chose the former of the two, the events of daily life can be so challenging that being an observer is more like an Olympic event. How does one remain an observer? Actually it takes minute by minute practice.

The first thing I had to realize was the difference between the two words. Well, that sounds easy enough; however, it really is more difficult than a person may realize. If I am being observant, I can watch, study and even summarize the facts. If I am being judgmental, I have an opinion and I am able to make a decision or even a verdict on anything. We are almost always judging.

Since we as people are only able to recognize in others all the qualities that we all ready have, I believe we should begin with our unconscious habit of judging one another. Let’s say I look across the room and see a person I find attractive. As an observer, my eyes can quickly pick out everything I like about that person. I can say I was able to remain an observer. If I had criticized or critiqued in any way, I would be judging. Here is another bit of information: It would make no difference if it is a thought or if the thought is spoken. A judgment will never be spoken in kind words. Sometimes it is so awkward to only observe. I know lots of people are people watchers and to be honest I am one of those people, too. I like being human and observing all the unique differences can even be comical when we learn to only observe.

We have become such a judgmental society that the person we judge the most is our self. Why would we do that if we are actually made in the image of the creator? Why would we ever think for a minute that we are imperfect? I first learned to stop judging myself and than began to work on judging no one else. The judgmental process is a hard one to undo. It begins when we are children and as adults it can become a miserable part of our life if we fail to make the growth and fix our selves. As children we were able to laugh at our silliness and be more willing to play the part of the fool.

Another area that we can become very judgmental is our occupation. Tell another person what you do for a living and watch the reaction. On all forms and documents my occupation is written like this: Madame. Oh my! My best friend in high school asked me if I still had that place (the brothel, Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, Wells NV.) I replied with a” YES” and her reply was an "I’m sorry”. I believe my friend's statement is a judgment concerning my occupation. There are two careers that I can think of that no one would ever judge and boy is everyone is glad when they show up. You may never want to be one yourself, however, we pay. How much did you say I owe you? One man is the plumber and the other man takes away your trash. You know they deal with all that smelly s… (Stuff). We always say thank you for coming so quickly and we hand them money.

The ladies that work for me are called prostitutes and very few of them willing share their choice of occupation outside of the brothel. Why? Judgment is the answer. People understand what a plumber does; however have we forgotten what being human is all about. I will remind you that everything we do, we must use some part of our body to accomplish. Prostitutes are like professional athletes because both careers are short and they must prepare for what is to become their next profession. It is to bad prostitution is so judged because we really did come here to enjoy the adventures of SEX!

So here is your homework: Can you really judge no one and love yourself just the way you are today!

The topic is actually all about Nevada's rural brothels and their locations.  Why are the brothels located in certain geographic areas of the state? Remember hearing the question about what made a business successful? The answer was, "location, location and location."

Besides location, the brothel business must have the approval of a county or an incorporated city. There are many great locations with no legal brothel business because the citizens or city government voted No! An opinion on whether to have legalized prostitution within a community is the legal right of the registered voter.

Today, the location of a rural brothel is going to be near a major Nevada highway or near the junction of an interstate and a well-traveled highway. Thousands of people travel these roads of Nevada and many curious travelers stop for a peek. Travelers that stop at a rural brothel are usually just passing through. They have a destination and maybe a return trip. For instance, a long haul trucker will pass through again and again as long as the brothel is on the scheduled route. This is how it works today; however, what about the days of yesterday? You know, the days before highways and interstate travel.

The brothels or bordellos of yesterday were located close to the center of town and reasonably close to where the train stopped. When a male traveler got off the train, he would be looking for lodging, food, a saloon and possibly the company of a woman. All these necessities must be within walking distance of one another. It was good business and good financially for the town. So, I believe the town's people got used to looking the other way when it came to prostitution. It was considered an "across-the-tracks" type of business and, as long as it stayed where it belonged, all ran smoothly.

The towns or now smaller incorporated cities were located approximately 50 miles apart for the steam driven train engines to take on water. The steam engines are long gone; however these towns are now exits on I-80. Battle Mountain, Winnemucca, Elko, and Wells are the train-water stops from the past. 

These towns went through many changes as time moved on. The steam-driven trains were replaced by the diesel locomotive and they never needed a water stop. Then the days came when fewer people traveled by train because cars and, eventually, highways appeared. However, the highway linked all these towns together and the traveler still needed lodging, food, drink and maybe a lady of the night. The towns did great until the interstate.

The interstates nearly destroyed the rural communities because no one needed a town every 50 miles. It was progress and of course people could travel faster then ever before. These communities really began to struggle and for longer than ten years the towns deteriorated. The businesses that were once the center of town closed and new businesses opened near the interstate exits. How did all this progress affect the rural brothel?

The interstate was devastating to the rural brothel. Many of these brothels are in various states of decay. There are a few that have under gone major remodels and are proudly open and worth visiting.

One of the very best locations for a rural brothel is Wells, NV.   Why? It's actually very simple. Besides being located at the crossroad of Highway 93 and Interstate 80, the Wells brothels have the luxury of being the closest to two surrounding states. That means the brothels can be a destination stop for the curious from Idaho and Utah as well as attracting the traveler that passes through town.

It is actually a very interesting story. The original Madames of yesterday are in heaven. I meet many of them and they are the reason working women are called LADIES!

Love, Bella